Emotional Distress

by Dennis E. Bradford, Ph.D.

in emotional well-being

Would you like to understand how to alleviate or cure emotional distress?

Earlier this week I did a slideshow video on that topic. The reason I did the video was for a crowd-sourcing campaign designed to help enable me to set up a consultancy.   I wanted to ensure that subscribers to this blog could see the video.

Don’t worry about helping the campaign.  If it “tips,” fine; if it doesn’t, that’s fine as well.  If there’s sufficient interest in it, which is what the campaign will test for, I’ll do it, but it’s certainly not as if I’m hurting for projects.

The video presents a 6-step plan for understanding the big picture of how it’s possible for any normal person to do better emotionally. 

How to Alleviate or Cure Emotional Distress

in 6 Steps

These are the 6 steps:

  1. Figure out where you are emotionally.
  2. Understand the structure of emotions.
  3. Understand the purpose of emotions.
  4. Take responsibility.
  5. Avoid either of the two extreme mistakes.
  6. Maximize the benefits of the middle way.

It was impossible to cover all that material both quickly and comprehensively.  In fact, the resulting video takes about 40 minutes to watch, and it was too long for me to put on this page.

Even if you don’t watch the video, however, please take this thought away with you:  emotional distress is optional.  If you ever find yourself hurting emotionally, realize that you are not merely a passive victim. There is a way to flourish emotionally.  When you hurt emotionally, your task is to find and go that way.

Why not, though, set aside just 2/3rds of an hour today to understand the big picture when it comes to living well emotionally?

Of course, merely watching a video by itself won’t make you feel better. That’s what the consultancy is for:  once someone understands the big picture, the task becomes finding a concrete method that works effectively and efficiently for that individual.  Doing that requires a one-on-one consultation or set of consultations.

The video itself will come down by the end of August 2014 when the campaign ends.  If you wait too long to watch it, it won’t be there to watch.

(It was an interesting process in the sense that it made clear to me an important difference between my video-maker hat and my consultant hat.

Rapport between a client and a consultant is critical.  It’s important that a consultant be much more than merely knowledgeable:  he or she needs good people skills.  The most important people skill is the ability to listen deeply and nonjudgmentally.  Then any good consultant will ask penetrating questions in order to devise an effective and efficient plan for solving the problem.  That requires patience and empathy.

On the other hand, a video-maker cannot be patient:  he or she must get to the point quickly and keep moving at a rapid pace.  Otherwise, viewers will become bored and click away.  So in making the video I had to speak quickly and proceed rapidly.  I believe the result is a fast-paced video that presents important information clearly.

However, because of its pace and other factors (such as some technical terms), Dennis the video-maker can seem, although professional, too abrupt and lacking in patience and compassion.  I hope that I’m not that way when not teaching!  The point is to avoid drawing the conclusion, merely from watching the video, that I lack the personal qualities to be a good consultant.)

If understanding the big picture about how to alleviate or cure emotional distress interests you, I encourage you to watch the video:



Emotional Distress A picture of emotional distress.