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The Nature of Love Explains Its Elusiveness

ATTENTION:  Do you want more love? That love is elusive is obvious.  Many of us want not only to be loved but to love.  Many of us try hard without lasting success. Would you be willing to think clearly about…

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Using Human Nature to Connect More Effectively

Ignoring human nature while trying to improve one’s relationships is senseless. Would you like to be more successful with respect to your encounters with other people?  Begin by approaching others with a realistic appraisal of human nature. Human Nature What’s…

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How to Fall Out of Love

For those who play the game of erotic love, falling out of love is an important skill to have ready. Susie, let us imagine, is a lovely, beautiful sixteen year old girl. Suppose John is smitten by Susie. Here’s the important…

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Non-Violence

Restricting it here to non-killing, non-violence is a noble ideal — and it cannot be anything more than that. In Crooked Cucumber: The Life and Zen Teachings of Shunryu Suzuki, David Chadwick tells a story of Suzuki’s going with a student…

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Why Meeting People Is Difficult

Meeting people is difficult because nearly everyone is lost in thought, which is an effective barrier to encounters. We pay a heavy price for being civilized, literate humans. Estrangement from others is an important part of that price. There are…

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Right Action

What, exactly, is right action? There are general descriptions that are correct but unhelpfully vague.  For example, it is action that decreases suffering whereas wrong action increases suffering.  Rather than characterizing what we are seeking, this merely describes its outcome or…

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Reincarnation

Except for sages, the rest of us experience reincarnation frequently. Surprised? This is important, because it explains why we suffer and sages don’t. I argue in a related post [see below] that “if we make incorrect or unwise identity judgments about…

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Being Special

Do you think of yourself as being special?  If you do, please stop! Why? Permit me (1) to give the general argument, (2) to remind you of two illustrations from literature, and (3) close with a tantalizing idea connecting literature…

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Sexual Desire

(1) Whence sexual desire?  (2) What should be done about it? (1) It comes from identification with form, with body. If you did not identify with your body, you would not experience sexual desire. It starts with a feeling of…

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The Root of All Evil

Why is it difficult to apprehend the root of all evil? The reason it’s difficult is because, although the critical distinction can be apprehended, it is impossible to use conceptual understanding to apprehend it. Rather, it must be directly experienced….

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